Author Archives: Heidi

Torch and My Changing Perspective

So since the wedding, Sujal has been indulging in lots of toys. I believe he is thinking the pre-kids-having rush. So he bought the GIGANTIC TV. It’s huge, plasmatic, and high-definition, which basically means it’s no better than any other TV, but it is a lot more expensive. Okay, so I may be overstating it, but as you can tell, I was not thrilled with the idea of the puchase. Nonetheless, we have it. Now we have fancy cable channels, too. Not so thrilled with that, either — and here’s why. It’s a temptation. I watch too much TV as it is. I want to throw it out the window and have us sit by a fire and read aloud to one another. Doesn’t that sound like something newlyweds would do? Doesn’t it?

So now that we have all these fancy entertainment tools, I recently watched the last 3/4 of Torch Song Trilogy on IFC, great channel by the way. I saw the flic in ’89 or early ’90 when I was still in high school. I recall thinking that Harvey Fierstein was an older guy, perhaps even an old man. It was funny to me to watch it now at 33, my perspective having clearly shifted. I was surprised how young he looks in the movie. He was a young, good-looking guy. What I remember about seeing the flic when I was in high school was that I thought it was a bit schmaltzy, a bit too tear-jerker-y, though I liked it for the most part. I’m not a huge fan of tear-jerker dramas, but it actually does not take the cheap emotional shots that I seem to recall from my earlier viewing. Watching it, I can see how it would make a great stage play, though it works well on film, too.

I’d forgotten Matthew Broderick was in it, or perhaps I didn’t know who he was back then. He’s a good actor, and I’d like to see him on stage. One thing that seems “missing” to some degree was mention of AIDS, but then I thought that perhaps Fierstein did not want his story to be about AIDS, to be about disease. Instead he wanted his story to be about the challenge of finding and keeping love. Mention of AIDS would have completely tainted the story. The film does a great job of portraying the universality of the challenge of finding and keeping love. I would not go so far as to say that one could merely drop in characters of different genders, but not only is it easy to identify with the characters, as many good flics aim to do, it’s easy to see similar representations in our daily lives. Nonetheless, I came across this explanation on Wikipedia:

“The combined play runs at roughly four hours in length, so New Line Cinema insisted that Fierstein restrict the film to a two-hour maximum. Despite the copious excisions, the film is also made in three distinct acts: “The International Stud”, “Fugue in a Nursery” and “Widows and Children First!”. The dates given below are the dates from the film; the plays were set two or three years more recently, but New Line Cinema couldn’t understand how a gay film in the mid-1980s could not mention AIDS, so Fierstein moved the film to before the AIDS crisis.”

It’s funny to compare how we react to films as kids vs as adults. I remember feeling very “cutting edge” for watching it as a child. Damn, was I ever cutting edge.

When I was a freshman at Bennington, Harvey Fierstein gave the commencement address. Here is a link to the text, a pretty fabulous speech. I recall sitting outside the graduation tent with some other not-yet-graduating students listening to him speak. I was pretty wowed.

~Yawn~ I Awake from My Slumber

Hoo-boy! Seems marital bliss has left me with nothing to write about. I seem to have no need to blog, what with all the wifely duties. Okay, okay…got home from wedding, got lazy, school started. Now I am back.

We didn’t make the Times, but the next best thing…

So I checked The New York Times to see if they listed our wedding announcement, and they did not. I’m miffed, because it is my firm belief that Sujal and I belong in the society pages. Alas, we made the society page on the next best publication, The Buffalo News. Check it out!

Our Wedding!

Yes, we’ve gotten hitched. I’ll write more later, but people have been asking for the links to the photos. Here is the link to Sujal’s page where there are links to his Flickr page with the photos. Enjoy, and please leave us comments.

Wedding Update 7

Again, I have updated the wedding page. This should be the final update to the schedule. Please join us for as many activities as you might like. Feel free to call us as you arrive.

Wedding Update 6 — the Schedule and Links

I just updated the wedding page so there is a more detailed itinerary for those that want it. There are also numerous helpful links.

Wedding Update 5

I’ve updated accommodation lists below and added some rates. Click here and scroll down to see them. I’ll be posting a schedule update soon. We are getting very excited!

Ned Lamont and the Debate with Lieberman

Last night we watched the debate between Lamont and Lieberman, and while Lamont did not come off as polished (which is fine with me) and while he kept referring to himself in the third person (remember when that did Bob Dole in?), Lieberman was just nasty. I was shocked at how much he was behaving like a ill-mannered republican — almost like George Bush in the last debates. He kept cutting Lamont off, exceeding his speaking times, and behaving in an arrogant manner. Clearly Lieberman feels threatened that he is preparing to run as an independent. I tried looking fr a transcript of the debate and couldn’t find one, but here’s what the Lamont Blog says.

After the debate, Sujal and I went to Tisane for a meet and greet. Sujal writes about it on his blog. When we finally had a chance to shake hands with him, he looked exhausted, as I’m sure he was. But her really perked up when he saw Sujal. I guess that’s because Sujal is so good looking!

Why? Why? Why?

Gosh — I want to say something about this, and yet I am so far from comprehending our actions and inaction that I have no idea what to say. Are we choosing to attack countries based on vendettas, based on the perceived ease of victory, based on which way the wind is blowing? I don’t particularly advocate invading N. Korea, but “consideration” of condemnation?

Is this how the world works — despots trying to amass land and power? Why? Why? Why? (Though I say this living in a nation with power…)

The Fall of Ken Lay in Shades of Grey

As I read about Ken Lay‘s death, I remembered an old cliche — that it is harder for White collar criminals to deal with being caught than it is for — well, what would you call non-white collar crimes? We wouldn’t say Blue-collar and boy is it presumptuous to say violent criminals. One thing is clear, it makes for a different kind of drama.

I tend to view the world in a more, shall we say, ‘equitable’ way — that there should be equal punishment, though I also strongly believe that we as a nation should put our efforts into reform rather than straight-up punishment. What do people think about this one? Is it harder for the Ken Lays to serve 20 years than for John Doe who robbed a bank?

I have always had a problem with hierarchies to begin with, so take away the hierarchy, and the white collar criminals won’t feel that archangel fall. I bring this up because I immediately thought that this process has most certainly taken a toll on Mr. Lay, and I feel some sympathy for the stress he must have undergone. We all screw up. But that’s one hell of a way to screw up — and to add immense stress to others’ lives. I wonder if the stress of losing one’s retirement savings has so adversely affected the health of any victims of the crime?